If you have the time, feel free to do all five daily. Otherwise, maybe choose a couple. Your aim shouldn’t be getting something and be in the lookout for things. Instead, try for getting into a place of peace within. All things happen from there. Please feel free to choose your order and stick with a daily routine. Give yourself at least 30 days. For most people, it takes up to 90 days for a habit to develop and start feeling different and seeing results.
- Neville Goddard’s recap and revision of the day
This can be done lying down or in sitting meditation style and should not take more than ten minutes. If you do this lying on your bed, make sure that you’re done for the day because you may fall asleep doing it. Hmm, here goes my insomnia. Great!
Okay, this is what you do. Sit quietly or lie down, making sure you won’t be disturbed, and close your eyes. Take a few soft, deep breaths and relax your body. Now, recap your day in reverse order. For example, if brushing your teeth was the last thing you did before settling in, then start from there and go backward one item at a time until you reach the moment of waking up in the morning today. Do not leave anything out however small or insignificant you may think it is. Soon you realize how much focus is needed to do this. Keep going. If your day was satisfactory, give thanks and go to sleep.
If something didn’t go right in your opinion, then stop right there and revise the situation.
How?
With your eyes closed and still visualizing the bad, change it to good. Basically, you’re acting like a filmmaker making a different film. Say, you had a disagreement with a co-worker and you felt hurt because the other party was at fault. It seemed that way. Create a small scene in your mind’s eye and redo it over and over again until you feel a sense of comfort. Your scene could be something like—you see the smiling face of the person standing in front of you thanking and praising you for job well done. You may end in a handshake. Don’t watch yourself from distance, but feel the firm handshake. Focus on your senses: handshake, sound of the voice of the person and their words. This could take 2-3 minutes at the most. Then just let it go and return to finishing the recap session on the rest of the segments from you day.
- Writing a prayer to your deity, saint or God
You may feel close to a certain deity or a saint, or just God for simplicity. If you believe in the existence of a power greater than you, try this method. You’ll need a notebook that you can close, or a diary you can lock and put it away some place private and safe, and a pen of course. Some people feel inspired if they use a pretty, colorful notebook.
Now, sit in a comfortable position quietly before sleep. Get your notebook out and open it. Write a date at the top and start writing your letter to God. You could start by “Dear God” or “Dear Saint (saint’s name)” and let your thoughts and feelings flow through your fingers and pen. Do not try to edit. Just let it all come out. You can tell your God about your problems at hand and your feelings and ask for guidance. End the letter by thanking Him.
It is nothing but a form of prayer. However, for some people, the process of writing creates a deeper connection within. During the writing process, you may sometimes find the solutions as well. If you do not have any major problems, you could simply write a thank you letter instead. Gratitude is known to be the best form of prayer there is.
- Creative Visualizations on your goals
Creative visualization is a technique you can use to bring positive changes in your life. It involves engaging mental imagery, affirmations, sight, sound, touch, and taste. The method is widely used in creative arts, sports, health, relationships, and just about anywhere else in life. Many celebrities claim their success to be the result of practicing creative visualizations for years. Jim Carrie is one of them. Feel free to look for others who’ve successfully used it.
You maybe already familiar with it. If not, there are plenty of books, articles, and videos available out there. We all daydream. To me, creative visualization is simply a guided daydreaming aiming at a certain outcome. If you see yourself being congratulated by your best friend on a promotion, you either see a long hug or a handshake, but not hugging then getting a drink or a smoke. That would be just a lazy daydream, going nowhere.
So if you’re into creative visualizations, doing it for a particular goal or dream, the best time to do it is before sleep. Your subconscious will have eight hours to process your requests and if having a lovely home in Malibu is in your dream, then you’ll be falling asleep with a nice visual, hearing the sound of the ocean. All in your imaginations.
So how do you do it?
Most people will usually sit comfortably and try to quiet the mind through deep breathing, just like getting ready for a meditation. Then they will shut their eyes and start the mind movie. I recommend having a written script as if treating it like a movie indeed so that you don’t waste time and lose focus. Write it down and memorize it. In the beginning maybe for five minutes maximum. Mind tends to wander off a lot. I personally do not do it more than ten minutes because I do not have the discipline of a yogi if you know what I mean. Some people use affirmations while visualizing. I can’t do it. I am earning $250,000 or more per year writing what I love and see yourself receiving big checks or see numbers getting bigger in your bank statement. You can try with any affirmations and any scenes. I was just giving you an example.
If you like to write, there is another way of doing it too, writing your script and engaging all your senses while you write. Maybe you want the house in Malibu and a special someone to share it with. Write a beautiful script enjoying the house with someone that brings smiles on your face. And like anything else, you must do it consistently every day, preferably at the same time. After doing it on one script for a while, feel free to change it to a new one, for the same goal of course. The idea is to have fun doing it.
- Forgiving one person each night through Ho’oponopono
Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian spiritual cleansing technique that claims to erase old data that is replaying in the background continuously creating chaos in our lives: chronic illness, bad relationships, financial scarcity, and the list goes on. When you feel that you’re stuck and nothing is changing, you can give this a try. You can do it on a specific issue, or in general. You don’t need to sit in meditation or anything. All you do is silently repeat these phrases over and over again until you feel calm.
I love you
I am sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
If you are afraid of something, do this to quiet your racing heart. You can use it just about anywhere in your life and it is not attached to any religion. Please feel free to read upon the technique online.
In this article, I wanted to show you how to use it for a special purpose: forgiveness. Face it, it is not easy to forgive someone who’s hurt you. And we also know that if we do not forgive, we remain attached to negative energies that can’t give us the peace we need. So we forgive people for our own sake and when we succeed, life can turn around unexpectedly that would seem to most people as miracles.
First, make a list of people who’ve hurt you. You’ll make the list at a quiet moment, taking your time. While creating the list, mentally make a note of your feelings as the names pop up. Don’t be surprised if the list fills up a page. This is life, my friend. I recommend choosing top five from the most hurtful relationships to work on first.
Are you ready?
Each night before sleep, sit or lie down comfortably and get quiet for a few minutes. Choose one person per night (For a difficult situation, work on the same person for a while until you feel peace. Then move on to the next person on your list.). Visualize the person’s face. See them standing in front of you. Try to detach your feelings as much as you can. Then start repeating I love you, I am sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you silently, over and over again with as much feelings to the words as possible.
Let me clarify something: you’re not asking their forgiveness. In fact, you’re not saying anything to them at all. The person in front of you is an object where the hurt took place. Repeating the phrase as a prayer to Divinity, you’re clearing the pain so you can be free. In some strange ways and over time, this method will improve other things in your life. Don’t be surprised if one day you notice that a chronic illness of some years has left you.
If one of the persons in your list happens to be your spouse with whom you live, you have the hardest job at hand. But it can be done. You just have to do it at a time when you’re alone or at a place where you’re alone. This may very well change the hurtful relationship into a happier one or end it peacefully if that’s the best solution. Either way, you’ll be free of the burden of pain and sufferings. Once I read about a woman who was freed from an abusive relationship through a peaceful divorce by doing nothing on the outside, but only using this technique. Within a short period of time, the husband realized on his own that he has hurt her deeply and decided to let her go without a fight. He left her the house, some money, and other things so she could take care of the children. Because as a housewife, she was afraid of losing it all and not be able to take care of her children.
- Making a list for the next day
This is self-explanatory but does real good to our lives. Just make a list of things you need to do the next day. Once they are on paper, they are out of your mind. And you sleep better. Writing things down seems to work in some mysterious ways. I’ve found that a lot of things get done automatically when I make a list, and I don’t mean by going through the list and crossing the items out as I complete them. Somehow the things get done! The mind guides me to them. Other than what needs to be done the next day, you can also make a list of things that you keep putting it off and forget and they bother you the minute you go to bed at night. Pick up the notebook and add them to the list and see the magic happens. I admit, some things are persistently difficult to remember to do. So keep adding to your nightly lists. Give it a try.
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